Should I forgive my husband for having an affair?

While forgiveness may be a necessary part of infidelity recovery, it generally does not occur at the beginning of the recovery process. In my experience, forgiveness more often comes near the end of the process. To the partner who was betrayed, forgiveness often means the end of the journey.

What happens to a spouse after an affair is discovered?

After an affair is discovered, in most cases a metamorphosis begins for the unfaithful spouse. Up until that time he/she may have been carrying on as if nothing was going on. They were stealthy in their ways and they thought they would never get caught. Then it happens. The affair is discovered.

What happens when a man has an extramarital affair?

A 2012 study reports that “sudden coital death ” is more common when a man is having extramarital sex in an unfamiliar setting than when he is with his spouse at home. Extramarital sex may stress out the heart also because the lover is often younger than the primary partner, and sex often follows excessive drinking or eating. [6]

What should I do if I find out my partner is having an affair?

Let him/her finish before responding. You will undoubtedly be shocked and upset, but try not to start shouting or rush out of the room. Ask your partner to tell you the truth, however painful. Recovery after an affair is always worse if lies are told early on.

Why does my husband refuse to tell me about his affair?

Because he has betrayed your love and trust in such a painful way, you may find it hard to believe anything he is saying. As someone who specializes in extramarital affair recovery, I want to tell you what I have heard many men say. Since I have heard it repeated so often, I have come to believe these truly represent what most men are feeling. 1.

Is the man I had an affair with dead?

“Are you sure?” my husband asked, his concern twitching slightly as he sensed the emotional tsunami headed toward our happy home. “I I think so. His company just issued a press release,” I replied. I was shattered. I strained to speak as I shook my head and tried to comprehend how to mourn the loss of a man I was never supposed to have loved.

Is the answer lies with the affair partner?

One thing is for certain – the answer does not lie with the affair partner. All too often, I’ve worked with people who have talked with the affair partner and made the mistake of assuming their motives must have been the same as those of their mate, or they assume the affair partner somehow understands their mate’s motive.