How do you outsmart a narcissistic boss?
The smarter you become about your narcissistic boss, the less power your boss will have.
- Understand the source.
- Respond, don’t react.
- Set clear boundaries.
- Don’t allow them to get under your skin.
- Don’t feed the beast.
- Don’t empower those who don’t deserve it.
- Fact check everything.
- Don’t argue.
How do you outsmart a narcissist?
Here are the steps you should take:
- Don’t argue about ‘right’ and ‘wrong’
- Instead, try to empathise with their feelings.
- Use ‘we’ language.
- Don’t expect an apology.
- Ask about a topic that interests them.
- Don’t take the bait yourself.
- Remember to put yourself first.
How do you disarm a narcissist at work?
- Get everything in writing. If you are given verbal instructions at work, ask for them to be emailed to you.
- Avoid a fight.
- Realize it’s not personal.
- Don’t give personal information or opinions to the narcissist.
- Have a witness.
- Avoid contact.
- Know your legal rights.
What happens when you set boundaries with a narcissist?
When you set such boundaries, narcissists may cycle through their repertoire: arguing; blaming; minimizing your feelings; acting like a victim; saying that you’re too sensitive; or becoming rageful. While such tactics can be unpleasant to endure, your boundaries are not up for discussion.
Can a narcissist respect you?
Narcissists will respect you for it. Everything in their world is quid pro quo. They will rarely be offended by people looking out for themselves. Dealing with a narcissist regularly is like having a pet tiger: You always have to be careful that one day he’s gonna see you as dinner.
What to do if your boss is a narcissist?
Look out for any mistakes in your work, and correct them quickly. Another way to handle narcissistic bosses is to speak up tactfully. Massage their egos with some praise before telling them what you think needs improvement. Finally, have a contingency plan.
How do you deal with a narcissistic boss?
If you’re dealing with a narcissistic boss, you basically have two choices: you either quit and get another job or you stay and deal. And if you stay, the only way to deal is not to try to change your boss but instead to change yourself and the way you respond.
What are the traits of a narcissist as a boss?
The narcissistic boss: is selfish, self-admiring, self-obsessed, self-centred, self-absorbed and self-important (if you take a peek at their social media, you may find it’s full of selfies!) takes credit for others’ work blames others for their own failures insists they are right all the time lacks empathy and concern for others
How to talk to your narcissistic boss?
but the narcissistic boss is a breed apart.