What do adoptees want you to know about adoption?

2. The adoptee’s experience is REAL. Adoptees want you to know their experience is real and that no one can “fix” it. It’s difficult for parents to see their children struggle with the complexities of adoption. They want to make things better and alleviate suffering. Parents cannot eliminate the pain of their child’s past experience.

What happens when no one talks about adoption?

When we are young, we don’t have the ability to identify our experience and articulate our feelings. As an adoptee gets older, if no one is talking about adoption, we get the sense that our feelings won’t be understood or validated. I’m now a therapist myself and have worked extensively with adoptive families.

Why is the adoption industry out of control in Ireland?

The adoption industry in Ireland spun out of control, she said, because of “the Catholic church and the idea of sin – well, a sin for women but all those men got away with it. Now the church has lost control, which is the best thing ever for that country. They’ve destroyed so many lives.”

How did I get adopted as an infant?

I was adopted as an infant, during a time when adoption was still shrouded in secrecy. My birthmother kept her pregnancy hidden from her family for nearly seven months. Her parents and my biological father’s parents agreed she would be sent away to have me.

What do adoptees want the world to know?

Here are ten of the ten thousand things adoptees want the world to know. 1. Adoptees want their adoptive parents to prepare emotionally and psychologically before they bring them home to become a family.

What to say to a child who is an adoptee?

Adoption language can be tricky. Avoid words like “chosen” and “special,” as they are loaded. The phrase “She loved you so much she wanted you to have a better life” is near impossible for a child to understand. Instead, use language like, “Adoption was a decision the adults made.” “We love you and we are a family.”