Why do marriages fail after having a baby?

Sociologists theorize that, in heterosexual relationships, mothers are more unhappy with their marriages after they have children because they tend to take on more “second shift” work — child care and housework — and begin to feel that their relationships are no longer fair.

What should you not tell your wife after giving birth?

What NOT to Say

Do not tell her she should get over this.
Do not tell her you are tired of her feeling this way.
Do not tell her this should be the happiest time of her life.
Do not tell her you liked her better the way she was before.
Do not tell her she’ll snap out of this.

Is it normal to hate your partner after birth?

According to Shoshana Bennett, PhD, a clinical psychologist, postpartum depression specialist and author of Postpartum Depression for Dummies, it’s common—and totally normal—for those sleep-deprived first weeks with baby to cause some bouts of irrational crankiness (and, yes, even a few crying jags).

What should you not say to a new mom?

12 Things Not to Say to a New Mom

You still look pregnant! No kidding.
Have you lost the baby weight yet?
Wow, you’ve already lost the baby weight!
Are you ready to exercise yet?
Better not have that glass of wine.
Enjoy every minute.
You’re breastfeeding, right?
Aren’t you just so in love?

What to say to a lady that just had a baby?

Words and how they are said can make a huge difference in how she remembers her experience of labor and birth.

Hang in There! This phrase provides a note of support without a lot of pressure.
I Love You.
Think of the Baby.
You’re Going to Be a Great Mother.
Awesome!
Keep Going.
I’m Here for You.
Just a Bit More.

What kills a relationship faster?

1. Blame and shame. Aside from all-out abusive behavior, blaming and shaming may be the fastest way to kill your connection. Both behaviors communicate contempt for your partner, displaying that you view him or her as beneath you or deserving of scorn.